Our hurts, our healings, our forgiveness. These phrases were the parting words that were stocked on us after attending the October Prayer Assembly for SFC Chapter A1 last October 13, 2017 held at Center 1, Al Safa Building. This night was one of those assemblies when emotions were too strong because it is definitely close to everybody’s heart. During the activity, the team heads Bro. Bryan and Sis Thel opened the night with a question, “how it means to be a Christian?” Some answered its loving God, some says believing in His words. This activity with the theme “Conquering evil with good” mainly revolves around the love we have for others, even those who hurt us. As per Luke 6:27 “But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you”.
However, how can we love our enemies? It is easy said than done. We all know that if a person has caused you so much pain, it will never be easy to forgive. The next question will be, “what do we really meant by forgiveness?” Do we really understand this word? Some people may define it as simply getting an okay after apologizing from the mistakes that they commit to others, but to those people who are deeply hurt, they will define it in a much broader language.
During the activity, Bro Fed, SFCA1 Chapter head has led the worship and exhortation. We were given two pieces of papers beforehand, one is blank, in which we need to, put all the hurts we have been through and the other one is where we need to declare that we have been healed. What I realized during that particular activity is that, sometimes no matter how we try to convince ourselves, that we’ve already moved on from the pain in the past, once we remember how it affects us, how it ruins the way we think about ourselves and the relationships that have been broken, the pain will cripple us back. Just then, we realized that the wound may have healed but the scar is still there. While writing on that piece of paper we started to open again that space in our heart where we all hide those wounds, and it takes courage to be able to fill up those blanks that pertain to healing when deep inside your heart, you know you’re still keeping those grudges inside you.
HURTS. We are all humans, we flawed, we make mistakes to the people we love, and sometimes to ourselves. We pained, why? It’s because of wrong choices and wrong outlook in life. In our everyday life, there are a lot of things that we see negatively, we keep on complaining about things, or on people. When we complain about traffic, on long queues, on lame customer service, on our stressful or annoying boss, your nagging siblings or significant others who don’t reciprocate the love, don’t we realize that they might have the same feelings towards us? That we only see ourselves as victims not knowing that we are a burden to other people. That we quickly judge people on by what and how we see them rather than listening to their hearts and souls. Hurt is such a negative word that can easily destroy anyone. Hurt rhymes with heart, coincidentally once we hurt someone; it goes straight to their heart that will bring forth the pain. Broken relationships are oftentimes the most common result when we’ve done wrong to others. Moreover, it is the hardest to mend, because humans in nature are fragile, we are easily broken especially if the person who has done us wrong are the same person we loved the most.
I have seen and experienced how cruel life was when you are at the lowest, there are people who come to our lives to crush our souls and make us believe that we are not worthy of being loved and that we are useless. They are the reason for your shattered dreams. However, we have the choice to either let them affect us or resent to choosing to use all those pains into a weapon to motivate and continue the life they think you cannot have. I did the same, I discerned to be healed rather than deepen the wounds.
HEALINGS. As Jeremiah 30:17 says, “For I will restore health to you, and heal you of your wounds,” says the Lord. We oftentimes neglect how powerful the word healing is, that we tend to look at the grudges we kept for so long inside us. Healing is not as easy as what we think it is. People undergo the process of reflecting on what causes them pain, who cause it, from there they start picking up the pieces back together. Some in a revengeful way, but some it takes too much time and courage to start the healing. Sometimes the reason why it is hard for us to heal is that we hold on to this pain for so long, that the longer we held on to that pain, the heavier it became. Pain is a choice but healing is a chance; a chance to renew thyself and for a new beginning. To rekindle what was lost, it might be your relationship to your family or maybe yourself. We do not notice that the same person who caused us pain is also us. Maybe it is time to admit that we are also our own enemies. Forgive yourself; forgive others, so that you will be healed.
FORGIVENESS. Who are we to not forgive others when the Lord our God forgave us with all the shortcomings that we have done? It is somewhat ironic that most of the time we forgive people simply because we still wanted them to be part of our life. That no matter how much pain they cause us we still go back to the idea that we value the person more than any other thing. I myself have gone through so much that it took me so long to hold on anger and have that unforgivable heart. And it took me so long before I finally let go of the pain. This writing actually gave me the chance to talk not only to whomever that is going to read this but also to communicate to my inner self; a wakeup call to everyone who needs to forgive but finds it difficult.
It is never too late nor too early to start all over again. Healing and forgiving are twin souls, once you have the healing heart; you are ready to forgive people or even yourself. Bottom line is, always go back to where it all began, and that is YOU. Forgive anyone who caused you pain, Forgiving people is a favor you make not for others but for yourself. It is not entirely forgetting what they’ve done, but remembering without any pain towards the situation or the person. It will open the path to a place where peace and calmness is overflowing that you will forget that you have been hurt before. Everything that you hold on for so long, all the hurts and pain you feel will always depend on how you handle it. You are the only person who knows when the right time is. The best way to free yourself from all these is to give the best revenge, that is to pray for the people who hurt you. Pray for the scars to fade away instead of mending it forever.
Let go and Let God take control of the healing and the rest will surely follow.
And with that, May God be praised!
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